"I Love You"

Seberapa sering sih kalian ngucapin kalimat "I LOVE YOU" ke pacar kalian? Sehari 3 kali? seminggu sekali? Atau sesering mungkin yang kalian bisa. Rasanya sangat mudah ya kalimat ini terlontar kalau ke pacar, tapi apakah itu juga mudah kita ucapkan ke orangtua kita?

Terima kasih banget buat Mami Mega yang sudah membukakan satu rahasia ini. Awalnya, aku gak mau datang komsel, males, pengennya main, tapi Tuhan ingetin, bahkan pikiranku malah macem-macem, kalau kabur komsel malah main, nanti kecelakaan di jalan loh, dan lain-lain. Tapi itu cuma pikiran buruk, jangan ditiru.

Kecewa sama orang tua atau keluarga pasti pernah kita alami. Bayangin kalau kekecewaan ini kita simpan terus-menerus. Sadar atau gak, hal ini jelas akan menggerogoti hidup kita. Contohnya yaaa, kita benci sama kakak laki-laki kita, akhirnya kita bisa aja jadi benci laki-laki, rasanya kita mau selalu menang dari kaum adam ini. Nah, see kan?? Kekecewaan yang terpendam itu bisa dan bahkan sangat teramat mampu mempengaruhi hidup. Oleh karena itu, coba sekarang cek baik-baik, flashback, ada gak sih kekecewaan kita yang dulu-dulu? Kalau ada, segeralah bereskan hal itu dengan Tuhan. Buang setiap kekecewaan itu. Pasti rasanya enak banget deh kalau kita bisa buang itu semua.

Gak berhenti sampai situ, ketika kita sudah berhasil membereskan permasalah hati kita, saatnya kita juga lakukan itu untuk keluarga kita. Ini nih cara yang simple, mudah banget, tapi gengsi untuk dilakuin, yaitu katakanlah "I LOVE YOU" untuk setiap anggota keluargamu. Ini simple banget! Saat mendengar tentang hal ini, rasanya tu pusing banget. Gimana caranya aku harus bilang 3 kata magic ini ke Papaku? Yup, aku masih memikirkan gimana caranya, dan semoga siapa pun yang membaca ini juga melakukan hal yang sama.

Percayalah, bahwa kalimat ini sangat teramat mampu mengubahkan keluargamu. Tidak ada keluarga yang sempurna, tapi kalimat ini seakan membuat keluarga pun terasa sempurna (walaupun belum terlaksana, tapi bisa dibayangkan rasanya). Ini bukan cuma buat readers, tapi buat aku pribadi, aku harus ngucapin kalimat pemulihan ini! Kita sendiri yang sukses di dalam keluarga, itu namanya selfish. Tapi, kalau seisi keluargamu bahagia dan berhasil itu yang disebut sukses dan kebahagiaan sesungguhnya.

Selamat mencoba!

Pembelajaran Hari Ini

Ketika kamu punya hal lebih, tandanya kamu harus memberinya untuk yang lain. 

Ketika kamu kekurangan, bukan berarti kamu harus menyimpan semuanya untuk kamu sendiri. 

Ketika kamu pas-pasan, kamu harus memberi untuk mereka yang kekurangan. 

Jangan pernah merasa puas.

Apa yang kamu punya sekarang belum tentu ada untuk selamanya.

Jangan merasa sombong.

Kelebihan tidak selalu menyelamatkan dirimu. 

Jangan hanya diam.

Tidak ada uang yang turun begitu saja kepada tangan pemalas. 

Bersyukurlah untuk apa yang kamu punya.

Baik itu, berlebihan, cukup, atau pas-pasan. 

Rasa syukur membuatmu merasa mempunyai lebih.

Rendah hatilah.

Bersikap seperti kamu tidak mampu, karena banyak di luar sana yang lebih hebat. 

Padi yang semakin berisi akan semakin merunduk. 

Beusahalah!

Kalau tau kamu tidak punya, jangan berharap hanya dari hasil pemberian.

Makanan tidak akan diberikan kepada orang yang tidak mau bekerja. 

Bersyukur, rendah hati, dan berusaha

Bukan sekedar lewat tulisan

Tapi lakukanlah

Belajar dari pengalaman orang lain dan diri sendiri

Biar hidup semakin bermakna :)

17 Maret 2014

Olin

Be The Good One

Sering banget saat lagi berantem dengan seseorang yang memperdebatkan karakter, salah satu akan berkata " ya gue kayak gini orangnya". Gimana ya? Menurutku, it's not the appropriate words. It's true that maturity isn't based on the age. Maybe, alasan pertama itu hanyalah kata-kata yang terlanjur terucapkan atau yang kedua adalah memang orang tersebut tidak dewasa. Alasan pertama bisa jadi hal yang melegakan, karena orang ini mungkin akan berpikir lagi untuk merubah karakternya. Sedangkan alasan kedua, ini yang sering menjadi batu sandungan. If we know that our personality is not good or disturb people, we have to change it! Not just submit the fate. Personality is not fate. Personality still can be change, even it's good or not. I hope you all grow to be good. (Amen :p) 

Banyak orang yang mempertahankan egonya which means mempertahankan karakter jeleknya, yang pada akhirnya bukan hanya merugikan orang lain tapi juga dirinya sendiri. Kita hidup bersama. Makhluk sosial. Kita harus beradaptasi dengan orang di sekitar kita, kalau kita tidak mampu kita tidak akan bertahan hidup. Itu hukumnya. Jadi kalau kita mau diterima secara baik oleh orang lain, berlakulah baik dan berubahlah menjadi seseorang yang baik. Adaptasi disini bermaksud pada hal-hal yang positif. Bukan berarti di suatu lingkungan ada nilai-nilai negatif, lalu kita pun mengadaptasikannya dalam hidup kita juga. We have to be smart to think twice which one is good. 

I'm not the perfect person. I am still learning how to be a good person. 

Just Accept and Be Thankful for Everything

Sometimes, the world can't go as what we want. It makes us dissapointed, angry, or sad. Yeah, we are just a human being that have a feeling and have a freedom to express them. Nothing is wrong :) But, we can't keep going on with the sadness. We have a choice to be happy, so why you choose the bad one? Try to think wisely :)

I have experienced this. I forced anything to do as what I want. The result? It just made me hurt. The world can't adapt to us, but we can. We can change the situation. First of all, learn to accept them. It's hard, maybe will take days, weeks, sometimes month. However, we should try. Just accept. When you accept, you can see the positive side. Then, you will be thankful of it. 

I want to tell you the key: be thankful. Thankfulness means you can accept all, even though it's bad. When you can do this, you will feel that you have had all what you want. You'll feel enough. When you concetrate on what you don't have, you will feel less and less. Don't waste your time to think about the bad side of the world, just be positive thinking. You have had everything and you will never be inadequate. 

Now, the world isn't in your hands, but one day, you will see how the world is easy to take over. God bless you :)

Phenomenon Program Television in Indonesia

I don't understand with televition station in Indonesia. Every show, reality, or whatever it is called have their own "joget". Do you understand? dancing! Like every scene, they dance all the time with the same dancing and song. I am as a spectator, feel so bored with all the dance. Okay, at first I can admit it. The show is fun, can entertain me. But, I think, it isn't wise if they have to dismissed the program which is useful that can inspire people. 

You know, like every station TV is priority the dancing. I just feel pity to Indonesian people. Where is the beneficial program? If every program just teaches how to dance, where the program that can teach people how to thankful or survive about life?

I am so thankful because my childhood was full of children's program. I don't know sure when, but it missed. All stations have drama that takes time so long and so cruel. It affects the children so much. You know, when I was child, I played and acted as a child, but the children nowadays have known about love. Amazing! They try to attract their "gebetan". OMG. So pity. 

I think, station televisions have to think carefully about program they made. It is not just about how entertain people, but your station television can inspire people from your show. I think it is much better. I hope, in the future, all things can go much better.

Do we worth for the second chance?

Chance? Do you believe that it will come for the twice or third time? I just believe, when you still have a chance, just do the best. I see some persons that lose their chance because they don't realize that it is the best time for them to show what they have. I never say that I'm the perfect person that use my chance well. I've ever lost it because that time I was so stupid.

I can't understand some people that request chance for more and more. However they have maybe got twice. I thought, before we ask a chance, just thinking of ourself first. Have we truly realized our mistake in the first or second chance? It is just nonsense when we ask a chance but we don't change. The chance will be useless and we will do the same mistake. 

We have to make ourself worthed before asking the second chance. Learn from the first mistake. Not all people can give second chance easily. People will be so careful to give it because they don't want to be dissapointed twice. Just be a worthed person to the second chance. People do mistake, learn, and be better!

Family is a God's Idea

I used to have a complete family, but it just happened until I was three years old. Then my mother and I moved to Tangerang and lived with my grandpa and grandma. As a child I didn't understand why it happened and I never asked my mom about my dad. I felt happy with all I have that time, even though never keeping in touch with my dad.

Now, I just live with my grandpa. My mother and grandma have gone first, their home in heaven have finished. I never know why this should happen. I am not angry, I realized I can't find the answer now. I lose father's figure since I was child, but it doesn't matter to me (I think). Thing that I've never thought to happen, I also have to lose mother's figure. 

I remembered that day. I slept at ICU room, waited for mom who suffered. Suddenly she could not breathe and the breath lost forever. As the only that I have, I never thought that I had to through my life without her. It was so sad. Blue and gloomy. 

No matter what happens, He loves so much! I cry sometimes if I miss her, but I never live in sorrow or sadness. Today, when I opened my IG, I found a picture, daily quote from Hillsong. It is written "Family is a God's Idea". It made me thinking deeply. When He created me, He has known what will happen to me. Everything that I face is God's plan. So, when I've to lose mom, I think it is the time for God to proccess me more. He wants me looking deeply to His love and more to Himself as the One who will take of me. How great Jesus is! We have to proud having God like Him. The second thing that I realize, I still have a complete family. I have God as my Dad and my Mother, why should I worry?? Nothing. Jesus besides me :) Losing my mom doesn't mean that I lose my life. It just a start to go somewhere better. Just believe in Him. He will be never dissapointed us.

I think those are the reasons why I can keep smile. :D